Women that successfully breastfeed, do so by using the Right Hand Side of the Brain, which I call RHSOB, cause it takes to long to type out. Mums do it either by intuition, by discipline or a dogged determination to make it work.
Just like drawing, people fail at drawing because they draw what their brain says, not what they actually see. Some times just by looking at the negative spaces around the object, you see the real shape of the object, weird I know, but it puts the object into real perspective. I can replicate a 'still life' composition to greater accuracy when I draw the negative shapes around the objects. It also works better when I relax and zone in on the job at hand, everything on the outer becomes a blur, sinking away into an oblivion of non existence.
Breastfeeding is similar, all else must be cast aside, yet so many mums find this hard to do.
Relaxation is the last visitor calling when the clothes are piling up in the laundry, an array of mess is scattered across the living area, dishes are precariously balanced on the kitchen bench, fighting for a place to exist. The phone is ringing again, and again. The just out of reach mobile starts and someone is knocking at the door.
Its already 3pm, still clad in pyjamas with shag hair, not caused by an actual shag. Anxiety sets in about the fast approaching 'Devil's Hour', silly name really, cause it lasts more than 4, and the unenviable task of cooking dinner, hopefully something edible, which needs to be sorted, possibly, perhaps, maybe, if luck happens to venture in and stay a while.
To add salt to the wound, everyone mum knows a mum that seems to cope with it all, still have a figure that's shows no evidence of ever having a baby, coiffured, manicured, complete with an equally pristine family & home. Actually these women don't exist, we just think they do.
A 'neatless' house is a sign that a woman has her priorities right; equally logical, there is something sinister about a spotless house where quiet children reside.
If the psychics of life isn't enough to deal with, then there's all the advice to contend with, whether its wanted or not. Women cant seem to escape it and it adds kudos to my mother's own mantra "She, who has boobs, can give advice".
Advice, is a right of passage for all mothers to part their experience on all other mothers, regardless of bra cup size; which confusingly always is as varied and as contradictory to all other previous information given by other mothers.
If that's not enough to invoke insanity, there's the plethora of books, ebooks, magazines, websites etc, which by the way is always written by mothers.
Breastfeeding or mothering advice should never be taken seriously if its been written by a man, seriously; its not naturally ethical. Its my soapbox thought on the topic, men cannot teach women how to be better mothers, only how to be their ideal dream mothers. The absurd idea of a man telling a woman how to breastfeed and mother, is almost as obnoxious as a man coming home to say to his wife "What have you been doing all day, you could have at least done something!"
Advice overload seems to electrify the already overloaded mind, a mind that's only just recently graduated from 'placenta brain' to 'lactating brain'. No wonder the frizzy shag hair stands on end when someone suggests the answer is to relax. Humph.
Its true, the secret to all successes is to relax. A relaxed frame of mind will achieve all desired goals easily and with greater success. Previous experience in Yoga & meditation not necessary.
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